the struggle is real.

Week #4 The Struggle is Real 

Communicator: Jenelle Wilson

Big idea of the message: 

Central text/s: Ephesians 5:21

Wins of the Week: Take time to share wins, God stories that moved you forward and closer to Jesus.

Ice Breaker: What was your favorite board game growing up and or what is your favorite group game as an adult? 

Gather questions are more God (Upward) focused, moving us closer to Jesus

  1. Read Genesis 1:27-28
    • What does it mean to you to be made in God’s image? 
    • How does Psalm 139:14 remind you of how special we are? 
    • Discuss the divine design of human gender, how have social definitions of gender distracted people from  God’s glorious standard? 
  2. Read Ephesians 6:12 Who is the (real) enemy in the battle of the sexes or in dysfunctional relationships in general? 
  3. Read John 10:10
    • What are some of the tactics the enemy uses in this fight?
    • What are some ways Jesus carries out His purpose of giving us a rich and satisfying life? 
  4.  Jesus lived the ultimate life of submission to the Father. How can you emulate that sort of sacrificial love in your life?

Grow questions are more “one another” (Inward) focused, moving us closer to each other

  1. How do you define “Submission”? How does your definition play out in your relationships? 
  2. Ephesians 5:21 How has the desire to control corrupted relationships between men and women? 
  3. Read Philipians 2:1-4 (read The Message translation if you have access).  What are some of the descriptors and benefits to submitting to others? 
  4. Jenelle made the statement: It’s not about gender roles, it’s about championing each others gifts.” What are some ways you can encourage the use of and enhance the gifts of others? 
  5. Do you have a “Don’t buy the dog” moment in one of your relationships (a time where you did not value or respect the wishes of the other)?
  6. Read Colossians 3:18-19.  How do you plan to implement this scripture?

Go! questions are more missional and applicable (Outward) focused, moving us closer to our unsaved world

  1. If you threw a party for the people who helped shape your life by their unselfish caring, who would be first on your list to your party and why? 
  2. Thinking about your relationships at home, work, church, or the grocery store, how can you put others above yourself in a healthy way that reveals Jesus? What could that look like?
  3. How does the reminder in Ephesians 6:12 impact how you will treat people outside of your home? How can you love your co-workers differently?

Application: “Putting Feet on our Faith” 

  • What is one specific step I/We will take to live out what we just discussed? 
  • Who can we share this message or truth with? What is their name?
  • Who are you praying for to know Jesus? What is their name?
  • Who will I partner with to keep me accountable so I/We can grow? 

Group Prayer Time: 

  • Ask if anyone has a need or knows of a need, you can also offer “unspoken” prayer requests. (Remember “group life” is new to many.  It may take some time for people to feel comfortable to share personal things.  Always lead with grace!
  • Subgroup: Groups of two or three (by gender) and share your week together. Pray together and for each other. Send them a text, or leave a message letting them know you have prayed for them this week. 

Discipleship Thought: Many people believe in Jesus, but do not believe Jesus. “Only he who believes is obedient, and only he who is obedient believes.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship. What are you doing with what Jesus has already told you to do?  (See John 14:15; James 4:17)

Week #4 Proverbs Daily Reading: Truth to Live By

  1. Ephesians 5:15-21
  2. Proverbs 12
  3. Proverbs 13
  4. Proverbs 14
  5. Proverbs 15